I find it very sad when people feel forced to keep their illnesses private. As you may have heard, Jackie Collins, the author, died this weekend of breast cancer. Apparently she was diagnosed six and one half years ago with stage IV breast cancer and only told her daughters.
Many people do not tell others about their ailments for a variety of reasons. Some may want to keep their health private but others I think feel forced to keep their health private. I can understand this at some levels. Why open yourself up for pity or stupid platitudes that we all want to avoid?
But then I think there are people who keep their health issues quiet because of potential bias from employers, friends, and family. The stupid 'they got *** so they are going to die' mentality. They are ready to ready to plan your funeral and split up your belongings immediately.
A woman who I worked with told me when she hears about someone's cancer diagnosis, she is ready to write them off because cancer will get them soon. This is just so sad. Others keep their health silent because they do not want to damage their career. Managers don't want to hire people who might drop dead on them, or require lots of health care and time off.
Our culture tells us those with health issues must be treated differently. When I go to the grocery store with a wrist splint on, the baggers always put two items in each bag so to 'accommodate' my perceived health. These same baggers fill the bags up when I don't have a splint on. Yes they are being polite but overly accommodating. I have no more desire to deal with twenty bags of two items each than two bags of twenty items each. But some kind of balance in the middle would be good for all. Or you could ask how heavy I want the bags to be. That would be an appreciated accommodation.
Too many people make assumptions about other's well being. Perhaps if they asked instead of assumed we would all be happier. And no cancer is not going to kill us tomorrow so stop treating us as if we were made of glass.Treat us normally. Thank you.
Showing posts with label health issues. Show all posts
Showing posts with label health issues. Show all posts
Dec 16, 2019
Jun 18, 2018
Am I making a bad decision?
Today is my last day of work. Well, I will continue to work one day a week from home and go to the office once a month until my replacement is found. And I will go into the office to help train him/her for a few days.
The reason I am leaving work is my health is not that great, in case you hadn't noticed. Even though I have cut way back on my schedule, I still am fighting fatigue and aches and pains. One goal in moving is to cut way back on expenses so my non-existent income will not be noticed.
Three years ago, in the fall of 2012, I was diagnosed with both rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia. (Actually it was exactly three years ago tomorrow that I announced this.) At that point I was working two jobs and a total of about 30-35 hours each week.
In early 2013, I resigned from my other job because I could not physically keep up the pace of working so much. It also required nights and weekends. In 2014 I started working fewer and fewer hours in my current job. Now I am down to about 8 hours each week, and I can barely keep up.
With the decision to move and reduce our expenses, it became much easier for me to decide to stop working. I am looking forward to having more time to take care of me.
During the next few months, I will have plenty to do with moving and the holidays and craft shows. Once we settle into a new house, I have no plans on staying home all the time. I would like to find some volunteer work to ensure I get out of the house and don't go stir crazy - but that would be fewer hours with more flexibility. I also plan to continue to go to the gym three times a week. My sanity is important.
But I must return to my original question of am I making a decision? I guess it would be a bad one if I was only thinking financially. But I do not have that luxury any longer.
The reason I am leaving work is my health is not that great, in case you hadn't noticed. Even though I have cut way back on my schedule, I still am fighting fatigue and aches and pains. One goal in moving is to cut way back on expenses so my non-existent income will not be noticed.
Three years ago, in the fall of 2012, I was diagnosed with both rheumatoid arthritis and fibromyalgia. (Actually it was exactly three years ago tomorrow that I announced this.) At that point I was working two jobs and a total of about 30-35 hours each week.
In early 2013, I resigned from my other job because I could not physically keep up the pace of working so much. It also required nights and weekends. In 2014 I started working fewer and fewer hours in my current job. Now I am down to about 8 hours each week, and I can barely keep up.
With the decision to move and reduce our expenses, it became much easier for me to decide to stop working. I am looking forward to having more time to take care of me.
During the next few months, I will have plenty to do with moving and the holidays and craft shows. Once we settle into a new house, I have no plans on staying home all the time. I would like to find some volunteer work to ensure I get out of the house and don't go stir crazy - but that would be fewer hours with more flexibility. I also plan to continue to go to the gym three times a week. My sanity is important.
But I must return to my original question of am I making a decision? I guess it would be a bad one if I was only thinking financially. But I do not have that luxury any longer.
Sep 18, 2017
More than one ailment
So I read the news, a lot. And probably I read too much news and especially health news - searching for the elusive cures. But in reading the news, I see lots of different opinions and announcements as one would expect.
Two things caught my eye this morning. One reminds us that breast cancer is not the main killer of women. Its heart disease. While we cover the world in little pink ribbons for breast cancer, we need to remember heart disease and other ailments are out there as well and that also kill people.
Another article I read is about a woman who blogs about life with fibromyalgia. I read the article and then thought for a few minutes (a dangerous proposition I know). Yes she is struggling with fibromyalgia. But there are people out there, like me, that have fibromyalgia and additional ailments. So those struggles with fibromyalgia are piled on top of issues with other ailments or issues.
When we are diagnosed with an ailment, it becomes the hyperfocus of our lives. But we need to realize that we are not the worst off, there are many others who have their own pile of problems, including poverty, mental illness, and more and are in much worse shape.
Imagine life with your pile of ailments and issues and compound it with additional ones such as poverty, lack of health insurance or transportation, isolation, or other issues.
I make myself sometimes peel off my layers of focus on my life and keep the awareness of others who are worse off.
Two things caught my eye this morning. One reminds us that breast cancer is not the main killer of women. Its heart disease. While we cover the world in little pink ribbons for breast cancer, we need to remember heart disease and other ailments are out there as well and that also kill people.
Another article I read is about a woman who blogs about life with fibromyalgia. I read the article and then thought for a few minutes (a dangerous proposition I know). Yes she is struggling with fibromyalgia. But there are people out there, like me, that have fibromyalgia and additional ailments. So those struggles with fibromyalgia are piled on top of issues with other ailments or issues.
When we are diagnosed with an ailment, it becomes the hyperfocus of our lives. But we need to realize that we are not the worst off, there are many others who have their own pile of problems, including poverty, mental illness, and more and are in much worse shape.
Imagine life with your pile of ailments and issues and compound it with additional ones such as poverty, lack of health insurance or transportation, isolation, or other issues.
I make myself sometimes peel off my layers of focus on my life and keep the awareness of others who are worse off.